I recently received an interesting question that had never been posed to me in quite this way:
“I’m a single woman, actively looking for a long-term relationship, so I occasionally visit my dates’ homes for dinner or drinks.
“Are there any ‘Feng Shui warning signs’ to look out for when I visit?”
This is such a great question!
Feng Shui is a perfect “detective tool” for sizing up someone’s suitability as a life partner. For better or worse the way a home looks and feels tells you a lot about the person who lives there.
Here are the top-5 Feng Shui things to watch out for in your dates’ places.
1. What’s the first piece of furniture you see when you enter his living room?
- Ideally the first thing you see in the living room is an inviting couch or big easy chair – NOT the TV. As long as the TV is “in command,” you’ll never feel truly welcome in your new guy’s home.
2. Where is his bed positioned in the bedroom?
- If one side of his bed is pushed up against the wall, he may not be ready for a relationship. Feng Shui calls for a bed that gives both partners equal access to both sides, keeping the two of you in balance and giving you the freedom to come and go as you please.
3. Is there a giant TV in his bedroom?
- A big TV that can’t be covered up creates a giant distraction from love. He may wish to void making an intimate connection with you, or prove unable to keep up a romantic partnership.
4. What’s the general condition of his place?
- The way a space looks and feels is a good indicator of your date’s sense of life balance. A messy, disorderly space shows that he doesn’t much care how he presents himself to you, or that he may be looking for a caretaker in his life.
- On the other hand a too-neat home may indicate Metal out of balance, which signifies the possibility of an overly-controlling personality.
5. What do you observe in his decorating taste?
- Do you see “lonely guy” artwork, dead plants, excessively violent imagery, tech equipment everywhere?
- Are there any family photos -or perhaps too many family photos? You don’t want your new guy’s Mom watching everything you do, do you?
None of these items need be a relationship-killer, necessarily.
If your dating life with this person shows promise, don’t hide your concerns! Rather, use them as a way to connect and start some important conversations.
What have I missed? Have you seen other Feng Shui warning signs you’d like to share?
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